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My mother is waging a war against the Filipino bad habit of objectifying women.

It all began with a Ms. World Event sponsored by Banco De Oro. This is an invite-only event which is BDO’s effort to impress, entertain and enhance their ties with their clients. Since we do business with them, last week, my mom received word of the event since BDO called to inform us.

My mom couldn’t go so I was the shoo-in replacement. I was excited. I’ve been invited to actually participate in pageants in the past so this kind of thing always intrigues me. That day, over lunch with both my parents, we discussed it in passing. We decided that I would go. My dad said he received a text from the BDO representative inviting him to the exclusive event. My dad declined. In response, the BDO rep said “sayang, maraming maganda doon” which, in English(for my friends abroad), translates to “too bad, there’s lots of pretty women there.”

I felt weird about this. My instant thought was “who cares if there are pretty women there? What kind of event is that?” Isn’t that statement highly suggestive and extremely inappropriate?

It gets worse.

The next day we discovered that when our staff had tried to RSVP my attendance, the people at the bank said that it’s exclusive, I’m female and I might feel out of place. Things then became clear, they only wanted men at this event. The reasoning behind this was that the guys will judge the contestants. Huh? If we are going according to that logic, then shouldn’t the women judge the female contestants? By nature, women are critical of other women and quite harsh. So wouldn’t we be in the best position to judge those in our gender?

Let me spell it out for you. An exclusive event with Ms. World Pageant contestants and a male-only guest list? This sounded fishy to me. I’m familiar with the many colorful ways that banks(or any business) entertain their clients, (read: stripclubs) this feels just as sleazy as that except.. glorified.

Now there’s tons of questions running through my mind.

  • Why can’t there be women at this event?
  • What on earth will the male clientele be doing with the female contestants that I, as a potential female attendee, cannot witness?
  • Is BDO offering their new and improved matchmaking service to complement their low interest loans?
  • Are they trying to get these women to flirt and seduce their way into our pockets?
  • Am I supposed to do business with these people just because they showed me some sexy women?
  • Whatever happened to Gender Equality? What about some hunky, sexy guys for the bank’s female clientele? (I’m kidding by the way. I don’t want to do business with a bank that resorts to shameless sex appeal for my money)
  • Doesn’t the bank realize that these men are fathers, husbands, boyfriends, sons, fiances, wouldn’t that be disrespectful to their families?

I don’t think this is very professional. This was a tasteless and cheap marketing scheme. I didn’t feel very valued. If there is a joke somewhere in this situation, I don’t think it’s funny.

Now back to the war against objectifying women. I suppose the female contestants are pawns. They are not girlfriends, wives, sisters, mothers or people. They exist purely to appeal to the visual senses of the male gender, who in this case are the sources of business. The sight of these girls is supposed to schmooze them to keep them happy and get their business? If you were the wife, daughter, girlfriend, sister of one of these men or the mother, father, brother of one of these female contestants, would you be okay with this?

It’s not just the bank, it’s not just this event, it’s not that my mother is a scorned jealous wife (because my dad did nothing wrong and there’s nothing to be jealous of.) It is this bad habit of disregarding women and the lack of respect for the relationships between men and women. It’s a small example of the deep-seated institution of the Filipino way of appealing to the man at the expense of his wife/girlfriend. It’s downright inappropriate and grossly disrespectful. Just because everyone does it, doesn’t make it right.

If this is happening to you, in your life, fight it, people. Fight it. In a world where relationships deteriorate by the second, it doesn’t help to keep silent and watch it happen to you. Speak up. It’s not about being overly jealous, sensitive or protective. Let them know it is not right for them to shamelessly joke around with your significant other (any gender) at your expense or in complete disregard for your relationship together. The world could do without this bad habit.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Feel free to leave a comment and/or answer our poll.


 

As everyone already knows, Anthony Bourdain featured Claude Tayag’s Bale Dutung Dining Experience on No Reservations. Since then, I’ve been curious about this no-longer-hole-in-the-wall place in Pampanga. My dad’s birthday is coming up so I figured it’s a perfect excuse to go. Not that my family needs an excuse to eat, but you know… for formality’s sake.

For those who aren’t familiar with Bale Dutung, it is a hideaway that serves an epicurean 10-course Kapampangan meal. Prepared by Claude Tayag and narrated by his wife, Maryane Tayag, the experience is informative, luxurious and unforgettable.

Here is my family’s photo with Claude & Maryane before our meal at Bale Dutung.

with the tayags

A visit to Bale Dutung requires a quite some planning. Reservations are required and upon reservation a 50% downpayment prior to arrival. According to Maryane, Bale Dutung only serves lunch once a month and typically accommodates big groups(10+people). When Maryane emailed to let me know that they were serving lunch this weekend and could include my family (4 people) I jumped at the chance to go.

Clear your schedule, people. They were right when they said this is a long lunch. We arrived at 11:45. It started around 12:30 (we were waiting for more guests to arrive) and ended around 4pm. I suspect that if we started on time (12nn) then we would’ve finished earlier. The pacing, explanations and eating simultaneously with a group of 40 other people definitely took some time, not to mention a little bit of getting used to. We cityfolk are used to quick meals. Bale Dutung stands to remind us to slow down and enjoy good food and company.

They serve 3 types of menus, a Kapampangan Menu, Bourdain Menu and Lechon 5-ways menu. I don’t know how you select the menu (since we were the minority) but I’m thinking it has to do with what the majority of the group requests. In our case it was the Kapampangan menu.

menu

Lunch is served at noon so my family and I woke up early to make it out to Angeles on time. Some nice sights along the way on the NLEX.

scenery

When we finally arrived! My brother looks really grumpy because it is too early (11:30am?!) for a Sunday.

entrance

View when you first enter.

gardens

Parents with the exterior facade of the house.

exterior

The pond.

pond

The dining area. Other dining parties came in large groups which explains the long tables.

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Their selection of take home goodies.

goodies

Maryane making explanations prior to the meal. My brother is still grumpy and not paying attention.

maryane explaning

My awesome parents.

parents

My favorite brother.

brother

The Welcome Drink – Dalandan Juice with a single Muscovado Sugar Ice Cube. This was quite refreshing.

welcome drink

Maryane explaining the drink and officially welcoming the entire group to Bale Dutung. Please notice the awesome shorts worn by the lady wearing white(not Maryane). Loved them. If you know where I can get cool shorts like these please share the info!

maryane narrating

Appetizer – Trio of spreads and crackers (Pesto, Talangka, Balo-Balo) – this was delicious. The pesto is made out of pili nuts instead of pine nuts. The talangka (crab fat) is pure and fresh with no extenders. The Balo-balo is made with shrimp (instead of Buro or fish) which made for a more subtle flavor. Individually good. Mixed together also made wonderful taste combinations.

trio of spread

We inhaled it because we were hungry. Obviously, we’re not used to the eat slow method. Notice the carafes of ice cold ginger tea (Salabat) and water. These were in abundance throughout our meal.

hungry hippos

1st Course – Ensaladang Pako (fiddlehead fern salad) with a honeymansi dressing – According to Anthony Bourdain, the fiddle head fern is about $22/lb in New York. However, according to Maryane, it is a fern that is in abundance everywhere and worth absolutely nothing, historically only consumed by drivers and yayas. I never would’ve known. Taste-wise it is sweet and tangy (perhaps also cuz of the dressing.) Texture was quite crunchy which I loved. It didn’t get soggy as most salads do, it stayed fresh and crunchy. My dad took home some to plant in our backyard.

ensaladang pako

2nd Course –  Piniritong Lumpiang Ubod sa Claude’9 Oriental Sauce – they give you one piece of lumpia drizzled with the pesto, wrapped in a lettuce leaf. Yummy. My family was kind of bitin because it is early in the meal and we haven’t yet adjusted to the fact that it is a tasting menu.

I didn’t get a good photo..sorry 🙁

lumpia

But here is the Claude’9 Vinegar that is fermented in-house. The one they served us is 12 years old.

claude9

3rd Course – Inasal na Manok at Claude’9 Talangka Rice  – this is a winner. I could eat plates and plates and plates of this stuff. I’m not too much of an inasal person but I loved this. Instead of marinating it with vinegar (as is traditional to inasal) the Tayags make theirs with lemongrass marinade which makes a lot of difference. The crab fat rice of course is delicious also. They give you a really small portion which made my family sad because they wanted more.

inasal talangka

4th Course – Adobong Pugo (quail) with mini-pandesal and chicken liver – eat the quail with your hands and soak the pandesal in the liver sauce. The sauce is good and so is the quail. I’m not a fan of liver by default so I gave this to my dad.

quail

5th Course – Talangka Sushi / Hito at Balo-balo Sushi – I like the crab fat better than the catfish rolls. But they were both good. Another thing I wish we were given more of. The sushi is so small, probably the size of a 5 peso coin haha. Super bitin.

sushi

6th Course – Tortillang Lechon –  Oh heaven heaven heaven. Lechon flakes on a tortilla topped with fresh tomatoes, cilantro, onions and this delicious kimchi made with fuji apples (instead of cabbage). Crunchy, spicy, sweet, tangy = heaven.

lechon

This is served buffet style so I was able to go back for seconds.

lechon

Mom & Brother enjoying their lechon.

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7th Course –  Bulanglang Kapampangan na may Tian ng Bangus, Ulang at Tadyang ng Baboy – It smells/looks like sinigang with a tinge of guava. It is not sinigang though. It’s done a little differently. The broth is rather rich, sweet and creamy. I heard the word “bouillabaisse” being thrown around a lot to describe it.

soup

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It is also quite sweet (cuz of the guava) so they give you homemade alamang for some saltiness. They also give you these awesome cones of rice wrapped in pandan leaves.

rice

8th Course – Begucan Sisig Babi at Ensaladang Talong – It’s deconstructed sisig. They used the shrimp paste (alamang) to flavor the pig ears and served it with an itty bitty mini eggplant. Loved the way this was played. However, not one of my favorite courses. It was okay.

sisig bale dutung style

9th Course – Kare-kareng Laman Dagat – Seafood Kare-kare, my friends. I love kare-kare! It’s my favorite Filipino dish so I was excited for this one. I wasn’t disappointed. My parents were right when they said it is a mix of Ginataan & Kare-kare. It was rich and creamy. You could taster the peanut sauce and a hint of coconut milk. The seafood is genius, so so so so yummy. I was extremely full at this point but I forced myself to go back for a second serving. Haha.

seafood kare kare

serving

There was a lull between the dessert and last course. They encourage you to walk around (presumably to digest). So my family and I used this time to explore the Tayag property some more.

observing balete tree

We discovered their wall of vinegar jars. They actually ferment them right in front of you. The oldest one I saw was labeled 1998.

Vinegar

There is also a huge, mildly creepy tree. Kulang nalang dwende, kapre, tikbalang or white lady. Haha. I dont know why I chose to take a photo with it.

tree

Claude is an artist! He has a gallery of his own work.

gallery

Check out the portrait famous artist BenCab did of Claude.

bencab

They had these interesting bags of water with coins in them hanging from the ceiling. I took a photo. This is a genius way to scare off flies. (Yes it works considering we were dining al fresco, we only had two fly encounters.) You fill a bag with water and put copper coins in it. A fly sees it and its reflection is magnified by the bag. It then thinks there is a bigger fly coming to eat them. Fly goes away. GENIUS!!!

bye flies

10th Course (Dessert) – Paradiso – This is ube (yam), coconut and eggyolk in a water buffalo (carabao) milk sort of custard. It tasted like creme brulee but pastier and 10x sweeter. It was so good but too sweet for me. I didn’t eat the eggyolk but I nibbled out of it and it tasted like yema. The rest I finished anyway.

dessert

Bonus Course! – Tibok tibok  – Maryane was nice enough to bring out some of this to try. It’s like maja blanca but with carabao milk instead. It’s good.

tiboktibok

I can’t even think of food anymore. We were so full afterwards. What a fun meal and fun day with my family. Happy Birthday Dad!!

happy bday dad

Bale Dutung by Claude & Maryane Tayag
Reservations absolutely required. Everything you need to know is on their website:
http://baledutung.com/

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Today I saw Paris Hilton!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She was in Manila promoting her Paris Hilton Bags & Accessories store. Mom & I got a chance to see her in Megamall for her meet & greet. Paris was absolutely gorgeous! She has the signature look and pose perfected because she looks good in any photo. Definitely knows how to work a camera.

She was friendly and sweet to all her fans. I loved everything about her! She almost missed her flight cuz she made sure to sign autographs for everyone in the line. Unfortunately, I was not one of those people. It’s okay, I took tons of good pictures. Maybe I’ll get to meet her next time. According to her, she will be back. <3

Here is Mom, while we were waiting. We got really close to the stage.

Another angle of the stage. We waited a while for her to appear. Here you see the host.

This is the host interviewing Paris’ #1 Manila Fan Isha Dinio. Paris follows her on twitter! She got to party with the Heiress and received tons of cool gifts.

Tim Yap hosted also.

Isha getting interviewed by Tim Yap. Lucky girl, overnight celebrity!

Tessa Prieto also showed up to meet Paris.

Angel Aquino at the scene!

My first good photo of the Heiress! Here she is coming down from her store (on the 3rd floor) for the meet & greet (on the 2nd floor)

On stage saying hello to all her fans!

Our lovely host looks star struck.

Sitting down to sign autographs. I think behind her that is Camraface, one of her good friends. Possibly a photographer by profession. I can’t be sure. **I stand corrected. That behind her is Jen, One of her best friends. Not Camraface. Thanks to www.twitter.com/orangegirl23 for the clarification.

This guy made a portrait of her. He also asked for a kiss which she seemed hesitant to give but she did it anyway hahaha. What a sweet girl.

She also had some young fans come out and support!

She’s absolutely gorgeous!!!

I caught a glimpse of Paris Hilton’s REAL bag. I know this is her bag for sure because she walked into the Mall carrying it. After she left the holding room, she switched to a bag from her Paris Hilton line for promotional purposes. However this GORGEOUS Baby Blue Hermes Birkin is where she keeps her things.

Time to say goodbye! (Check out the bag from her collection, very Louis Vuitton-inspired with a Paris Hilton spin, don’t you think?) I can’t wait for her to come back!

This is what Paris Hilton’s back looks like. Haha. She’s so thin and model-esque. Fantastic physique. I wish I could be this slim. Am so jealous.

 

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On Facebook Chat: (which, by the way, clearly states my name)

Guy: hi julienee! whats up?
Me: Um. Hello. Musta?
Guy: I’m good julienne how ru?
Me: Ok lang.
Guy: Anyways wat ur business nga julieene?
Me: Automotive, ikaw?
Guy: financing, its actually a corporation julienee

S0 anyway. this goes on for a while. But you get the picture. Not only does he like to state my name during every sentence(weird), he also likes to spell it incorrectly. Pay attention to detail, man. Julienne is not just any word, it is my NAME.

Guys and girls, it doesn’t matter who you are, who you’re talking to, what you’re saying, how you’re saying it, whether you’re texting, emailing, chatting, SPELLING IS IMPORTANT.

Thanks,
Julienne aka Grammar & Spelling Nazi

 

More of the person I saw in the street. While waiting in traffic, I witnessed her (or his) serious expression go from troubled to…. The word ‘despair’ comes to mind.

Please don’t steal my photo. ©IAmJulienne 2011