— I should have offered my driver right away.
I love being Filipino. I think we are an interesting blend of different cultures and we have some great positive characteristics. However, it can’t be denied that our society has developed some bad habits in the last few years. I will attribute this to factors like the internet, media and a shift away from traditional values. That said, I’ve come up with my short, simple list on what things Filipinos can do to be better people.
1) Clean up after yourself
Practical Applications: In a Food Court, in a Moving Vehicle, In Any Public Space
What does this teach: Responsibility, Accountability and Cleanliness
We are are a service oriented culture. That’s why we make good workers. The flip side of that is we are also always used to others cleaning up after us, opening our doors, picking up after our mess. But here’s the thing. What if no one does? Then our city would be even dirtier than it already is. My take on it is, if you can be clean at home, why not be clean in public?
“This is not my area, it is the government’s job to clean this, there is a cleaner who will take care of this.” Yes, how about you put your trash away so that the cleaner can actually clean?
2) Fall in Line
Practical Applications: public bathrooms, cashiers, ATMs, in Traffic
What does this teach: Discipline and Patience
The proper way to fall in line in public bathrooms is to have one line for all the cubicles and not a single line for EACH cubicle.
The proper way to fall in line for cashiers is to find the end of the line and no matter how far away it is, suck it up and go to the end. If you do not like this then find another cashier with a shorter line.
The proper way to fall in line at ATMs is to form a single line for all the ATMs and not a line per ATM. (same as the bathroom one). Also, don’t stand so close.
Traffic is one big line, maybe you wanna stay in your lane because switching lanes just to get one car ahead makes no sense at all. And is a waste of gas.
3) Communicate Properly (NO to Jeje-speak)
Practical Applications: In all written correspondence (text, emails, facebook comments)
What does this teach: the proper use of language (both English and Tagalog), articulation, vocabulary, grammar and proper communication skills
Communication is one of life’s most critical skills. We form opinions and impressions on people based on the way they communicate – what they say and how they say it. While some argue that Jejespeak and other newly developed slang such as Bekimon are both forms of language, I feel that people should not forget the formal and proper way of speaking (whether English or Tagalog). Maybe Bekimon and Jejemon can be with your friends but in a professional setting, it is inappropriate and sends the wrong message…literally. Start simple – spell your text messages properly and hopefully the rest will follow. (ex. “aq” or “aku” to Ako)
4) Chill out a little
Practical Applications: Everywhere in Life
What does this teach: Internal Energy Conservation, Zen, Prioritizing more important things
Filipinos are so salty about everything. When anything negative is said about Filipinos (ex. in international Media, TV shows, etc) even in jest, people get all up in arms. Take the Ms. Universe incident for example, we can’t get over how Steve Harvey mixed things up. We just need to brush it off and move on. Filipinos like to dwell. We dwell on every little thing. We get mad about random things and can’t let go.
5) Be curious. (Ask questions, engage others, constantly learn)
Practical Applications: School, Politics (Elections), Workplace, Life
What does this teach (or do): Asking questions gives us knowledge, awareness and enables us to be people that always learn and improve ourselves
Filipinos by nature are generally passive aggressive. My opinion is that we aren’t the curious type. If there’s something that we don’t necessarily understand, we do not let on right away that we don’t get it. We do not question things so much. Take school for example – if the teacher says something, we accept it as fact, we are not taught to challenge (respectfully) our teachers. We are not allowed to engage them in debate otherwise it would be seen as disrespectful. When I went to college in America, I was surprised to find that students were encouraged to engage our teacher and volunteer our own opinions even if they differ as long as we did so respectfully and sincerely.
In the workplace, I noticed here that they will not clarify instructions. Instead they will try to do them on their own and make a ton of mistakes. My first boss encouraged me to ask as many intelligent questions as I needed to get my task done properly. This isn’t done here. If it was though, it would save lots of time and energy.
In politics, we should absolutely 100% be curious about our candidates and future leaders. Listen to and dissect their platforms. Be an informed voter!
So that’s it! that’s my simple-but-not-so-simple list. If you have any good ones to add, leave them in the comments! I would love to hear from you! 🙂
If you are reading this then no doubt you received a phone call from the above person. To be honest, I haven’t received a call. However, many of my readers have and you can read that post (and their experiences) here – http://iamjulienne.com/blog/2014/08/newspaper-blackmail-scam/
My unprofessional opinion is that, these calls can be from:
1) Scammers – trying to scare you into paying money
2) Debt Collection Agencies – trying to scare you into paying your debt BUT if you don’t have any debt (and don’t know what they are talking about) then it’s most likely #1 – Scammers.
What to do when you receive a call:
1) DON’T PANIC – Really. Try to remain calm. It is not as bad as you think.
2) WRITE DOWN as many details as you can remember (names, designations, companies, addresses, phone numbers)
3) FACT-CHECK – meaning, using the details you have from step #2 and run a background check on who they say they are. Google them, google their company, find out if they are real. Get as much information as you can.
4) VERIFY – Guaranteed, they will give you a telephone number to call. The phone number will supposedly belong to X company where you can make “pakiusap” your situation. This is the part where they try to extort money from you. So.. This is what you do, find out if that company really exists. If it does, call the number in the yellow pages or official website. I repeat, call the number that you FIND.. not the number that they give you. When you call the number that you find, ask them if there is a person named ______ working there. Give them the name of the person who called you. Talk to the person at the end of the line, confirm with them the story. “hello, I received a call from Mr. Juan Dela Cruz, he said that I should call and find out regarding my situation. I just want to inquire, is Mr. Juan DelaCruz working there? Is there someone else I can talk to about his call? etc etc.”
5) ANALYZE – Try to see if the info matches the information you have from the scamming call. For example, if the phone number that caller gives you DOES NOT MATCH the company number, then you already know you have a problem. If the company says that there is no Juan DelaCruz working there then you already know you have a scammer on your hands. Is Mr. Juan DelaCruz really the CEO of “the Company”? Think about the content of their message. Is it true that you did not pay your credit card? Is it true that you borrowed money and did not pay it back? What is true? What is not true? Analyze.
6) RESIST THE URGE TO CALL – DO NOT call the numbers they give you. Why? Because it’s a modus operandi. The people at the other end of the numbers are also involved in their scheme. Of course they will say the same story as the original caller to make them seem legit. Again, CALL THE NUMBERS YOU FIND.
7) ASK QUESTIONS – There is a big chance they might try to call you again to scare you. They might even give you a deadline to “fix the problem” when they call, ask as many questions as you can and go back to step #2. Write all that info down.
Some examples of questions —
– Where did you get my number?
– Where do you work again?
– Where is your office?
– What is the charge against me?
– What credit card are you referring to?
– Who did you you say you are connected to?
– (if newspaper) – What issue? When will it be published?
If you still don’t get answers – then consult a professional lawyer. Again, this is a lawyer that YOU KNOW. And NOT a lawyer that they tell you to talk to.
If this is happening to you now – please leave a comment and share your experience so that others may benefit from the knowledge. Awareness is key.
BE SMART EVERYONE.
It has been a while since I blogged. It has been crazy busy sometimes life goes by so fast and writing about it is the last thing on my mind. But here I am, I will try to post more often.
Since it’s been a few months, here’s what’s new with me:
1) I am learning how to speak French! – It’s a lot of fun and keeps my mind active and distracted with things other than work. One should never, ever stop learning.
2) I am trying to lose weight. I guess this is not so new. The diets are new! hehe.
3) I have been property hunting. I’m dreaming about buying a condominium unit in Rockwell or maybe a nice apartment in Makati that I can rent out and make some money. My budget is very small so I have not been successful. The apartments in Rockwell are upwards of 8M and well beyond my budget.. I keep looking anyway. As my mom says, looking is free.
4) I am going to Iceland in September! I am going with some old friends and I am very excited! I will post pics about that trip. I promise.
5) I’m busy thinking of different businesses or ways to make money. Passive income is now my new thing, see #3.
6) I am trying to sleep earlier. I am a night owl so my regular bedtime is 1-2am. Trying to change that and sleep around midnight.
I miss writing, I will really try to blog more.
We met Nanay Elsie while grabbing a late dinner at Oishinbo, in Little Tokyo. She approached our table and offered Chicharon from Bulacan. There was just something about her that gave me warm fuzzy feelings so I struck up a conversation.
Nay Elsie communicates mostly by smiling a shy toothless grin. When she does speak, it is very soft, reserving her loudest voice to speak only about the chicharon she sells. Every day she travels to Makati to sell chicharon to the patrons of Little Tokyo from 8pm onwards. She goes home at 5am. Walang tulugan nga po, she says. True enough, while waiting for customers, she takes small cat naps and once nearly fell out of the chair she was sitting in. She woke up with a smile.
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